Emotions Matter, PT 4 and PT 5 by Frankie Faires

Emotions and behaviors are coupled. Each emotion an organism (yes, creatures other than humans have emotions) has calls for a different behavior. And more behaviors often equate to more adaptability.

Back to autism. One of the ways to measure how autistic (or otherwise how mentally ill) one is is to measure how many behaviors they enact and emotions they feel. The fewer they have, the more autistic (or ill) they are. Back to my autistic friend.

He valued action far more than emotion. That math doesn’t work out. Emotions and behaviors are coupled. One cannot be more valuable than the other.

Being that their coupled, each limits the other. If one is engaging in repetitive behaviors (which is very common in autism), one is limiting the breadth of feeling. And this limits the breadth of action…which leads to another equation where the math does work out:

Limited Emotions = Limited Behaviors = Limited Life

With fewer emotions and their associated behaviors, the individual has a limited life. Perhaps the most important limitation in life is the social aspect. How can one take part in anothers life if he can’t do what they do or feel what they feel?

This is exactly the experience of many autistics. When people encounter autistics, they feel as though something is missing from the autistic. By the same token, they feel autistics are missing something and sometimes many things about what’s going on around them. They’re right on both accounts: autistics are missing sensations and actions, emotions and behaviors, thoughts and feelings. But autistics aren’t the only ones missing parts.

Anyone with trauma has had emotions and behaviors taken from them by abuse and neglect. This leaves us all with less ability to give and receive nurturance and more propensity to give and receive trauma. It’s a downward (anti)social spiral. But it can be reversed.

Emotional Intelligence Matters

-your emotions matter to you
-others emotions matter to you


-you surround yourself with people whose emotions matter to them
-as well as your emotions mattering to them

…health can be restored.

If you have a problem with yourself, you have an emotional problem. If you have a problem with others, you have an emotional problem. And, of course, if you have an emotional problem, you have a behavioral problem. To solve all these problems, emotions have to matter to you because quite simply…emotions matter.

If you missed Part 1, click here.

If you missed Parts 2 and 3, click here.

Frankie is a co-Founder of The Movement and author of THE MOVEMENT’S BioMechanics 1, 2, 3, & BioPsychology courses. When he is not spending time with his family, he educates people online in Health / Fitness and Martial Arts. For additional info go to: www.areyouthemovement.com or www.movementmartialarts.com

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